Learning and trying new, freaky sex positions is always fun, but the classics work for a reason. And by making small tweaks to beloved sex positions like missionary, rider, and doggy style, you can make the tried-and-true positions feel fresh and exciting, too.
Next time you try reverse rider, also called reverse cowgirl, try bending one of your knees so your partner can rub their clitoris and vulva on your leg while they ride. Trust us here, and keep reading for more expert-recommended tips on how to make reverse rider even sexier and more pleasurable.
How to Do the Reverse Rider Sex Position
As the name suggests, reverse rider involves the vulva-owner riding their partner, but in reverse so they face away from their partner, not toward them. The penetrating partner can keep their legs straight, or bend one knee so the rider can lean forward and rub their vulva on the penetrating partner’s thigh. In this set-up, the rider can simultaneously get internal vaginal stimulation and external clitoral stimulation, which can lead to an incredibly satisfying blended orgasm for her.
Illustration by Katie Buckleitner
Why You Should Try the Reverse Rider Sex Position
The penetrative partner already loves this position because it offers an excellent view—and the minimal effort is sometimes a welcome reprieve. “But reverse rider can work really well for some women, too, because the person on top has a lot of control,” says Rachel Needle, licensed psychologist and co-director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. “She can adjust the angle, the pressure, the pace, all without having to rely on her partner to figure out what works for her,” she says.
Pro Tip
If you’re not bending your knee and offering up your thigh, Viviana Coles, DMFT, LMFT-S, CST, and therapist with Houston Relationship Therapy, suggests that the rider try holding a vibrator against themselves externally. Though, if juggling a vibrator while saddled up winds up being tricky, consider outsourcing the job to a wearable vibrator like the We-Vibe Sync.
Alternatively, if the receiver enjoys anal stimulation, this position can be a fun one for incorporating a vibrating butt plug, per Evan Goldstein, DO, the author of Butt Seriously. Not only will the vibration help stimulate the internal erogenous zones in the receiver’s pelvis, but a plug with a jewel (like this one from b-Vibe) will give the penetrating partner quite the view.
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